DON'T stop and think.

The other day my friend and I were running around what felt like all of Manhattan (okay it might've just been in and around Union Square and Greenwich Village), trying to put our fashion design project together. Our perilous journey towards mediocrity (sorry P), led us through many a campus computer lab, Staples (three times), three restaurants (what, we've gotta eat!), Zara (for inspiration), and several other destinations I won't bore you with. The point of this is wherever we went that day, it seemed all any female over the age of eighteen was talking about was MEN. An earth shattering revelation, I know. But here's the thing, any discussion I managed to overhear was focused only around the guy. "why do you think he did that?", and "can you believe he said this", and "why is he not calling?", and "when will he finally get his act together?" etc.  Basically, it was all he, he, he.

Listening to these women it hit me that I too am guilty of wasting precious time trying to analyze what the guy is thinking and attempting to interpret his actions rather than thinking about my reactions and feelings toward the situation. Self destructive much? What I'm trying to say is the more time we spend trying to figure out men, the less time we focus on what we want and what makes us truly happy. And c'mon, like we're ever going to figure 'em out anyways. Ladies, are you with me?

However, once we figure out what it is we really want and how we feel about what's happening, we've also got to take two steps back and realize that men often communicate and act differently from us in similar situations. We've got to be a little patient and understanding because that's what relationships of any kind, platonic or romantic are build upon. My whole shtik is we've got to stop trying to "get" men and why they do what they do. Instead, we should focus on whether we're happy, while somehow managing to meet them at least 1/3 of the way, and spending more energy focusing on enjoying the process. Now don't think I've got the answers to how exactly we can enjoy ourselves as opposed to tormenting ourselves, but I'm working on it and when I find the answers -- you'll know where to look.

xoxo
-Val